What's Really Like to Have a Threesome Dating

What's Really Like to Have a Threesome Dating?

Every time you see a threesome featured on TV or in a movie, you usually just see three people kissing and then waking up the next morning, leaving you with no idea of what actually happened in between. In this week's Threesome Sex Talk Realness, Theresomedatingsitepicks.com spoke with a woman about herexperiences with sleeping with more than one person at the same time and figuring out how to make it work.

"The most exciting part of the threesome was watching another woman get on top of my boyfriend and ride him until she had an orgasm."

Were you in a relationship at the time? Who was in the threesome?

Yes. I have been in an open relationship with my male partner for 3.5 years. The threesome was him, myself, and another woman.

What was the process of choosing the person(s) involved?

My partner and I were part of a threesome dating site for swingers in our area and were always on the lookout for a single girl we could have a threesome with. One day, I was browsing the threesome dating site for new members and came across a really cute girl. I sent her a friend request and a private message telling her I found her in the threesome dating members group and she was absolutely gorgeous. I let her know that I had a male partner and we'd love to meet up to see if we all clicked. I already knew if I found her attractive then my partner would too. I showed him some of her photos later and he was totally on the same page. We ended up exchanging phone numbers and coordinated schedules to meet up. She had a really sweet personality via text, so that confirmed even more that we would be a match. Also, after she accepted my friend request, I could see that we had a good number of mutual friends who were swingers and I saw photos of her with those people, which helped confirm she was a real person and her pictures were accurate.

What was the hardest part about planning it?

Finding the right woman to participate with us. Because it was my first threesome (it wasn't his first) and my first time being with a woman, he let me pick out the girls on the top threesome dating I thought were attractive. Then we'd look at them together to see how they dressed, how they posed in pictures, and how they marketed themselves. We kept narrowing it down over a period of a couple of months and then spent a week getting prices from three dating site. He knew that whoever I wanted to choose as our third was going to be the final answer though, since he wanted me to be comfortable. Then one night, we just decided to go for our threesome dating.

Was there anything you were particularly nervous about before the threesome dating happened?

I was a little nervous about being with a woman sexually because I wasn't sure exactly how to do that, but it all happened so fast that there wasn't much time to be nervous.

How did the threesome dating start?

We started out by having some light appetizers and drinks at a restaurant together. The three of us all decided we didn't want to be drunk for the experience, so we stopped at just one drink. We had a lovely conversation and talked about our past sexual experiences. The woman said she'd had many threesomes before, so we got to hear a bit more about her experiences. One thing my partner and I had always intended to do when we found the right girl for our threesome was to make her the center of attention. Most threesomes tend to be a couple having sex and the girl becomes a third wheel, but we didn't want that. We told her we wanted to shower her with all of our attention sexually, and she shared that she had never experienced that before but had always wanted to. Knowing that all of us had fantasized and dreamed of having an experience like this just added to the anticipation and confirmed that it would be a fun night.

And what, uh, happened after that?

Once we got into the hotel room, we all stripped down to our underwear and started kissing. Then my partner and I gave her the first of many orgasms for the night with just oral sex. Then she and my partner removed the rest of my clothing and went down on me. Then the woman and I went down on him together. We took turns in a variety of positions trying to give her an orgasm until it was time for me to make my partner finish. Afterward, we all snuggled in bed to relax for a bit. She eventually went home and my partner and I stayed in the hotel together.

Were there any unexpected problems?

No. I don't think that my not being involved as much as I'd wanted was a problem as much as it was a rookie mistake. Overall, it was an enjoyable experience, but my boyfriend agreed that he wished I'd been more involved with her.

Did having a threesome with your boyfriend and someone else change your relationship change at all?

If anything, our relationship became stronger and we grew closer after the threesome dating. Sharing such an open and freeing experience like that together really added to our relationship.

Have you had more threesomes since then?

No, but I wouldn't be opposed to doing it again if the right opportunity came up. I would also be interested in doing more with the other woman. I was pretty sexually inexperienced for my first threesome dating, but I think I'm more confident now.

What do you think is the biggest misconception about threesomes, at least among women?

That you'll know exactly what to do in the moment, because it was definitely harder than I thought. Also, when I had my first threesome dating, I felt like I had to stick to my heterosexual identity, which made it hard to get into having sex with a man and another woman. Now that I'm older, I would view myself as more sexually fluid and open to experiencing more. I think the threesome dating would've been a lot more fun if my friends and I had been willing to abandon the ideas we had about our sexuality. But you know sometimes single girls and guys will also find a best couple first in couple dating and then join the threesome dating with their couple.

What advice would you give to readers who are considering having a threesome dating?

The feeling when we in threesome dating, it's amazing when you find a great partner in the threesome dating site who doesn't have any inhibitions. If you're single and choosing one other partners who are also single, make sure that you have a good enough relationship with both people involved so there won't be any jealousy or attachment. Definitely have a three-way cuddle afterward. Seriously, if you thought cuddling with one person was great, cuddling with two is amazing.

User Responses

Amy

Oct 16th, 2018 at 06:00 pm

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It thanks to Date3some.com. We talked about how we felt, what went well, what we would do differently, and whether or not we wanted to do it again. It wasn't a difficult conversation to have because we just joked about it first and then asked each other questions. I asked him about how it felt when he touched her, how she tasted, if he had fun, and if he would do it again. We still talk about it occasionally because it's part of our relationship and it was an experience we had together.

David Kim

Oct 19th, 2018 at 02:36 pm

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We try to join in Bilovecouples.com. Now my girl got as far as some sexting with new friend and I was chatting with a longtime friend who I was interested in. But the danger of someone in our college organization finding out we'd all hooked up and being shocked by that. That was kind of thrilling. And it was fun for my friend and I to feel like we were seducing this hot guy together.

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